We’ve come to it then. Even as I write this, knowing I will post this blog tomorrow, it could be the last before my baby hiatus. I’m kind of chuckling because I don’t really have anything planned for the 6th thinking he will be here by then. Both my wife and I are hopeful to be honest. This waiting feels like when you’ve studied for a test and feel really good about it but you don’t actually take the test for a few more days (that old fun feeling).
I find it interesting how calm and collected I feel as we get closer. All the reading, videos, and classes we’ve taken should account for some measure of preparedness right? I already see him in later years, experiencing and growing in life. To know we have a place in that guidance and in his own personal journey is quite the honor. I think too often parents forget they are the most reliable resource a baby and child have until they can be independent. Obviously, you do all that you can but there has to be this strange sense of separation, trusting your lessons will stretch beyond the boundaries of their childhood home.
(I did not see this post heading in this direction Honest truth, lol.)
I’ve watched and observed fatherhood from a distance my whole life. I’ve seen so many different kinds of dads and their “tactics”. While I could argue the good and bad of many of those through different scenarios, I think the number one thing a father needs to be in order to be a good dad is simple: being present. Not in the sense of being around. Dads can be in the house and never be present. My dad was on travel a lot growing up but he never seemed absent from the house when he was home. He did chores and projects (doing his best to get me off my keester and away from video games) and included me from time to time. Who’s with me that pulling weeds is the absolute worst?! Ugh, I hate pulling weeds but I did them. Still though, my dad was there and I could talk to him even if I didn’t want or know how to (it gets better and easier as you get older of course).
Even now, I look at my wife and our day to day and seriously have these thoughts about how any day now, it’s going to change. Children change things between a husband and wife. Not for the bad. As a team, the load should never be too much for either parent. There’s a selflessness that is expected and should be evident in both lives. Partners to the end. My wife and I often talk about how we make a great team and that we fit well together. I have no fear of parenthood because she is there with me and I know she is more than capable of being a good mother. Nothing could convince me otherwise.
I plan on this being my last blog post before my break and I want to leave you all with the notion that there is excitement and peace in our house. Pregnancy is an amazing journey for first time parents. We’ve had to make choices and absolutely understand the weight of the responsibility but I assure you we do not take it lightly or for granted. The privilege we have in being a part of our son’s development and growth into a person who will impact and influence others cannot be ignored.
(Did it get a bit too heavy at the end there? I feel like it did. I rushed it, I know.)
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