As my wife and I prepare for the baby (April is fast approaching!), much of our preparation is making space. We’ve lived in our apartment our entire marriage and that’s years of acquiring stuff. However, as would be expected, a purge is needed.
I admit, I’m not the best at de-cluttering. Much of that comes from my dad who is the same way. We have similar mindsets of “I don’t need this now but I may need it in the future”. Not an excuse for our behavior but just a way of thinking that not everyone else has (my wife being one of them). I’m thankful my wife is not like me in this way because we’d have a heck of time getting rid of stuff.
I’ve been thinking a lot about this though. Much of my behavior comes from being a collector. I’ve collected sports cards since I was probably seven years old. While cards have been my most consistent item of preference, I have collected everything from comics to pogs (showing my age with that one but yes, I was a major pogs nerd). Later in life, I’ve come to add movies, records, and books into the mix. These later items however do not hold the sentimental value that cards do for me.
Bless my wife for putting up with me. The purge is happening and I know I need to make some tough decisions. I’m writing about this because I don’t know what makes me this way. I can’t figure out what pushes me in this direction. When it comes to cards, I collect what I’m most interested in. I’m not the type that goes after quantity but instead, what I will call selective quality.
I think I do it because it’s a stress reliever and maybe keeps me from boredom. Now, I don’t think this necessarily always a good thing because I can easily waste my day away searching online, organizing, cataloguing, etc. my collections. Since I’ve been married, I’ve had to make conscious adjustments to how I spend my time and sometimes that’s been easy while other times, it has been a little less easy. I know and I’ve been telling myself for months now that I need to make more conscious effort and prepare myself when the baby is here because he will require a lot of my attention.
If I were a more selfish person, I might fight this but if marriage has taught me anything, it’s that it’s not all about me. So, maybe my five plus years of marriage have actually been preparing me for this aspect of parenthood more than I ever realized. My collecting habits won’t likely stop but I will adapt.
Call to Action: Check out the show Godless on Netflix when you get a chance. I’m a few episodes in and it’s very good. Well-written and acted by all accounts and for some reason I love gritty westerns.